What is true love?

"Love is bitter yet addictive; just like caffeine"

What does true love feels like? Having butterflies in your stomach? Tingling feels when you see him/her? Nerve wrecking experiences when you knew its' just a few more hours till you're gonna meet him? Well, for me its different I guess; at least that's what I think it is.

What is true love? To be honest, I still can’t understand 100% completely. I can never say I'm a love expert too. But for me true love isn’t about materials, it isn’t about appearances either. It’s about kindness, loyalty, going the extra miles for that someone and the random acts of those kindnesses. Well, you all might think the definition of kindness is being kind and considerate to the other opposite but in this particular aspect; it’s totally different.

Being able to forgive the ones you love who did wrong with your heart and mind is one of those kindness. When you’re in love with that someone, you tend to be softer at heart. You accept their apologies and you too on the other hand changes for them too. You love the other so much that you end up realizing you were defending them when someone criticizes them. You never tell him or her you defended for them to show them you love them but you just do it for them unconsciously.

You accepted their pet peeves, their flaws and imperfections. Yeah sometimes you might get a little annoyed, but you still love them so much you forgot how you hated those pet peeves, you forgot about the flaws you once saw as something inappropriate, you forgot about the imperfections and instead you see them as perfect imperfections. Well, if you love someone so much, you’ll ended up accepting who they really are but sometimes you’ll end up getting hurt if it becomes worse and they never change that's IF they already knew about it. But when all ends well, two sides accepted each other’s perfect imperfections sincerely.

Not only that, you tend to put lots of effort on giving the best for them, maybe even more than your friends at times. You would prepare hand written cards, little surprise events, flowers for the girls & maybe just a little affection to show them your love for the other. Well, I guess I did (at least that’s what I think my efforts are - more than my friends’ haha). You would realize having to see yourself thinking about them when you were preparing and getting anxious and nervous whether they’ll like what you give or not. Unlike towards the friends you have, you would normally just buy something that they actually hinted you that they wanted that particular something and just celebrate with them the best way you could BUT towards your partner? You did a hand written card for him or her unknowingly despite knowing how cringe and cheesy and corny it is.

I think that’s how true love works. You forgive them at their lowest, you accepted them at their lowest, and you put more effort in making them happy more than anybody you ever put your effort on. Love is blind they say and I guess it’s slightly true but love is also a life lesson where you would unconsciously try to become a better person for your other just because you wanted them to see you as someone who is reliable, someone who they would think like ‘damn I seriously want him/her in my life forever’ or ‘this is the one’ or ‘I wanna improve myself for him/her just because I want to do my very best to make him/her happy as they put a smile on their face’. Well, nobody wants to see someone they love showing a face of being annoyed, angry, sad, depressed because of yourself right? The cards of depressions and doubts might just be piling up one by one if those faces or feelings were shown directly to them & that’s not good and not healthy at all in a relationship - at least for me. They go through the ugliest phases together but come back up and enjoy the happiest phases together too.

That’s why, when you love someone, go all out and not halfheartedly people! And always, ALWAYS to never forget that your partner may not tell you how much he/she worked up the courage to prepare those gifts and random acts of kindness for you, but they definitely did it for you and ONLY YOU because they LOVE you. True love is hidden in the corner, we just need to find it and make sure that we put in the right efforts and confidence to make them happy and remember; even the slightest little things can make them happy such as random long texts, greeting texts, random back hugs, helping them with something despite knowing they could actually do it themselves cause that’s what normal couples do right? We tend to do things and stuff that they already know how to do it too. ;) (Taken from 'Descendants of the Sun' Korean drama hahaha)